Monday, February 18, 2013

Notebook Girlz



We want our children to have good friends.  Friends that they can laugh with, cry with, enjoy time with, and feel good about themselves with.  It is not about how many friends you have, but the quality and integrity of the friends you choose.  You may not always get along, have the same opinion, or even the same interests, but there is a bond that develops making you want to spend your time together, to open your heart to this person, risking the pain that is inherent in any relationship; when you encounter the moment when you must decide if it is worth the emotional investment to persevere or if self-preservation dictates that you must walk away with your head held high.  

Two weeks ago my little writing group comprised of five girls made the choice to become friends.  I was witness to this very special moment that was so subtle and natural it was barely detectable.  This group of girls, who gather together perhaps because they love to write, or perhaps because their mother made them, collectively flipped a switch which transformed them from just acquaintances who gather once a week to write, to friends.

It began with laughter.  Usually our group is a bit quiet.  They all have ideas and share those freely with one another but rarely did they open up about who they are as girls.  Laughter changed this.  Someone said something witty and thus began a conversation.  As I sat and listened, I knew instinctively not to redirect them back to writing.  This moment was about more than writing.  This moment had the potential to be transformational.  And it was.

Originally our group was to last 8 weeks.  The last week would be this upcoming Friday.   I enjoy this group.  I love being in their company.  Since they don’t want the group to end, especially since they are now friends, we have extended our weekly meetings indefinitely!  They have coined themselves Notebook Girlz and they began a blog to share their writing.  This blog in still in production, and the goal is to have at least one story published this week.  Emails are flying fast and furiously among us, as stories are submitted for editing and revision.  Editing guidelines are being created. Plans for a group photo are being discussed. Sparkly banners are being constructed.  Blog nicknames are being imagined and "about the author" descriptions are being written.  It is all very exciting.   

Friendship is a gift.  Sharing part of your soul with someone is an act that should never be taken lightly.  My girls know this.  They know that some friends come into your life for a reason, some just for a season and some, a select few, will stay with you and become part of you.  The hardest part of growing up is realizing who those friends will be.

9 comments:

  1. Funny how, once again, we are so on the same page. We have been through a bit this year with our homeschool neighbors, but the end result was that they all decided the fun they have together and the connection they share was worth fighting for. There are snags in every relationship, but it is truly awesome to see your kids grow in their friendships.

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    1. Yes! I noticed how alike our two posts are today! I am so glad your girls found a way to keep their relationship intact. We have been blessed to reconnect with friendships that were strained when DI kept us so busy we lost touch. I learned a valuable lesson looking back on last year. Family first, then friends, then activities. Friendship matters so much more!

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  2. That is wonderful. Looking forward to the new blog and what the girls have written.
    Blessings
    Diane

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    1. The website is www.notebookgirlz.blogspot.com but it is just the framework at this point. I am hoping to get the first post up today and post twice a week.

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  3. That is an awesome thing for you to be able to witness! I am happy that the writing group has turned into so much more, looking forward to reading their new blog.

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    1. It went up yesterday. www.notebookgirlz.blogspot.com!

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  4. I can't wait to show my girls the blog. All of the girls are so lucky to have you working with them. I do wish we could find girls for my oldest. This is our second year and we never meet any girls that are around her age. dtble

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    1. It can be hard. Grace is one of the oldest in our group of friends. There is one other 12 year old girl and a few 11 and 12 year old boys but they all play as if gender does not matter. I began this writing group for several reasons, one being to hopefully connect with other older girls. It took a few weeks but I am so happy that now they are friends.

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  5. It's really wonderful that this group is coming together so well! I am excited to hop over and take a peek at the girls' new blog :)

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