Monday, December 14, 2009

The Journey

When my child was having ear problems that the family physician could not regulate, I took her to a specialist. When the specialist could not determine the cause of her ear pain, I was perplexed. What do you do when the specialist can’t solve the problem? You keep trying. By chance when L was at her sister’s orthodontist appointment, I asked for a consultation. Upon inserting his pinky fingers into L’s ears and feeling the bones in her jaw move as she opened and closed her mouth, he asked me if she ever experienced ear pain. She was experiencing pain daily. He said he understood why and set about to correct the alignment of her jaw that was causing pressure on her eustachian tubes. Within a week she felt relief.

It should not be a surprise to many that since L has been experiencing prolonged emotional difficulty in school, I have tried to solve the problem. I have spoken to teachers, set up play dates, prompted her to make conversations and at times acted as her mouthpiece. I have made teachers aware of her academic ability that she hides behind her shy demeanor. I have scheduled extra conferences to check in on her social/emotional development in school. Despite my efforts, she continues to experience stomach pain in the morning, extreme sadness during the week and general malaise from Monday through Friday. Her lunch box comes home empty, she cries her way through homework and longs to curl up in bed with a book and her stuffed animals. She tells me her day is just too long and she misses me. She cries in her sleep. These are not new behaviors. This has been ongoing for the past three years.

As her Mother, I will do whatever it takes to make her happy, healthy and safe. I am removing her from school and bringing her home to learn with me in an environment that she feels comfortable in. I was prepared for varying reactions from friends and acquaintances when I share this news. I knew to expect reactions ranging from disbelief to disdain. I am intrigued by the nature of other’s responses to the act of removing a child from public school. If I am acting in my child’s best interest, acting as their advocate because they are too young to navigate their way out of emotional distress, how is this any different and why should it be judged any differently than taking my child to medical specialist until the root of the problem is discovered and the discomfort is alleviated?

Our adventure will begin after the Christmas break. I have tried to find other blogs written about the first year of homeschooling. I hope to share my experience of removing my 7 year old child from public school and bringing her home to give her a Classical Education. I am full of expectations.

Expect relief.


5 comments:

Theresa said...

Beautiful Jess! I know you will succeed! :)

Mary said...

Jess you are doing a wonderful thing for your daughter(s) and you are doing the best you know for them. You will do great and I know that you will find all the right resources. My cousin homeschooled her daughter who is now attending college and she is doing wonderfully! Congratulations on such a corageous and noble effort. I know you and your daughters will excel!

Andrew said...

It takes a strong person to be that bold. Don't let anyone tell you whats good or bad for your kids. As our pediatrician said when our son was born: "After the first 6 months of life, you know better than anyone, even me, what to do for your child." If this is the right thing for L, do it. Confidence in the educational setting can not be overrated at her age, it's what will give her the strength to be her own person when it really matters.
AG

Dr. Maureen said...

Good for you, Jess! I bet you will look back on this as the best decision of your life!

Fatcat said...

I agree you will probably look back on this as one of the best decisions you ever made. I do.

Not to say there won't be difficult days, whining and crying because there probably will be, but it's still worth it.

A bad day homeschooling is better than a good day in an educational institution.

Have fun with it!

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