My tween daughter regularly reads my blog. I hate to say that a 10 1/3 year-old child is a “tween” but that is how she is acting....like a child caught in the tricky age between little girl and teenager. She made a comment yesterday that has made me think. She asked me why I blogged about being called the meanest Mom ever. She did not like it. Not that I was/am mean because she is not a fan of the changes I have made and am continuing to make. She would like to see her life go back to the way it was when sugar had unlimited access to my children and with a few whines and pleades the tv might just stay on a half hour longer. No, her complaint was not that I shared with the world that my children think I am mean, but it was that I shared something that she found embarrassing. “Family stuff is family stuff”, she said.
I think she makes an excellent point. I began this blog to share my homeschooling experience. I did not see many blogs to read about families who chose to homeschool after their children were well established in public school. Most of my posts are about homeschooling; our curriculum, our choices, our struggles, our successes. Part of the process of homeschooling for us has been to closely examine the choices we make. Homeschooling for us is not just about schooling but about learning to live together with kindness and respect, improving our health and finding joy in our learning. To keep it real, I blog about the good, the bad, and the ugly. I try very hard to write about the issues that face our family but approach them in a way that would not cause embarrassment, hurt feelings or concerns that private family issues were discussed in a public forum.
But I am not a tween. I am not looking at my blog through the eyes of a ten year old who sees herself and her family’s experiences in print for all to read, judge and comment on. So tonight I am left questioning the course of my blog. I enjoy blogging. I enjoy connecting with other families across the country who are homeschooling as well. I have made new friends. My blog is also a way for my husband, who works crazy hours, to feel like he is a part of what we are doing. He reads it daily and “sees” what we are up to, what the girls are learning, what is going well, and what is a challenge for his family. I don’t want to close my blog or keep my writing just in my journal.
However, I am going to refrain from some of the “family stuff”... pull back a bit on some of the issues that my girls and I are experiencing as we continue to transition to a healthier lifestyle. I am going to keep the focus on our homeschool, our activities, and our curriculum. I will share our trips out and about, our favorite activities, classes and learning moments. I may add some reviews about what books and curriculum we like and dislike. For now I am going to read and re-read every post I write through the eyes of a ten year old child. I don’t ever want the girls to feel like I am compromising their privacy or am insensitive to their feelings.
Winnie - I know you are reading this. I hear you and I respect your wishes. I am glad you told me how you feel and you gave me something to think about. I love you.