My children have a completely different lifestyle now than when they were learning in a classroom. Back then in order for Grace to skate competitively, she had to come out of school early every week. She would skate until the evening, come home tired and sore, drop into bed, and wake up tired to start her next day at school. Now If she has a piano performance or festival coming up she can spend hours in the morning when they are most alive and energetic giving the neighborhood a concert. If Lilah wants to bake 7 dozen cupcakes for an interfaith dinner for the needy, she can spend all day doing this in order to deliver fresh cupcakes at 5:00pm. Grace can spend 4 hours every Wednesday at the university working among college students developing her interests and connecting with mentors that can guide her education in this area. They have the ability to use the time when they are most energetic to devote to their talents and passions rather than the time when they are worn out and tired from the hours spent in school.
But....there is always a but....it comes at the expense of something else, after all there are only so many hours in a day. My girls choose to keep themselves very busy. Our week contains lessons in piano, guitar, an internship, electronics, writing group and art journaling. The weather is finally turning and this week we are expecting weather in the low 70s. When Grace’s friends are outside playing with chickens and rabbits and floating boats they spent hours constructing down a creek, she will leave, spend an hour driving, and 4 hours in the weather center. Recently, she told me that sometimes her desire to be in two places at once is so strong it makes her sad that she can’t do it all.
We are given a set amount of time every day. We are constantly making choices about how to best use the 24 hours. There will be time for floating boats down a river and a time for classroom studies at the university. There will be time for play and time for rest. Time for family and time for jobs. Time for baking and time for reading. There will be time for bike riding and multiplying fractions. There will be time for lazy days at the beach and time for busy days too. We just can’t do it all on the same day.
This is such a hard lesson to learn. I learned it when I was 30. She is learning it at 12.
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.