Sometimes there are moments when you are faced with an opportunity but also an opportunity cost. For teens, this is scary and unsettling. Do I stay where I am comfortable, where I know what to expect and I can be good, but not great? How important is greatness? Do I go and unlock my potential even if it is scary, even if it is hard to say goodbye, even if I miss what I had and am unsure of what I am being offered?
These are questions my girls are being faced with right now, again. My girls do not have the option of picking classes, with no control as to who the teacher is. They are the creators of their educational destiny. They get to evaluate their outside teachers and determine if what they are learning is adequate, if it is appropriate, and if it will get them where they want to be. Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know until you are asked and you can’t answer. Then you know if where you are is adequate, or if you want to make a change and rise to the potential that you know is within you.
They are still children, and I don’t feel that 100% of the decision making should be placed on their shoulders. I do not view myself as a “helicopter parent” and actually work very hard not to get too involved emotionally in their efforts. Being with them 24/7 it is easy to get too involved. Their work is not my work. Their goals may not be my goals. Their accomplishments are not my accomplishments. I provide opportunity. They deliver results.
They are on a precipice. It is a joy to watch them grow and mature but it also causes a bit of mama heartache because the road to maturity is never a straight path. We are winding our way around a corner right now, with our eyes on the road ahead.