This has been a time of discovery for my girls. They left the barn they rode at for a year. Due to construction we could not make lessons for three weeks and I thought to myself that there must be a closer place. We found a barn 10 minutes away where I could drop the girls off and return to pick them up if I had something pressing that needed my attention. This barn has group lessons which intrigued my girls and most importantly the girls would be split up.
The time has come that it is no longer appropriate to do everything together. If one girl gets more lesson time and attention it causes resentment and bitterness. They need space, room to grow and discover, room to fail and pick themselves up again, or to succeed on their merits and celebrate without fear of hurting feelings or taking away from one another.
Grace has found her own way too, at another barn, a bit further from home, and a perfect fit for her. This barn focuses on equine therapy, is smaller, more intimate, and does not offer group lessons. Grace feels at home here and wants to spend as much time at this barn as possible. The setting is tranquil, on the hill above a reservoir, shaded by trees, populated by rescued cats and therapy dogs. For Grace, it’s a little slice of heaven. It is also just the right balance of structure and nurturing, for Grace needs both. She is eager to jump and cantor and compete again. This will come. Hopefully she will be volunteering here as well, merging her love of kids with her love of horses.
We have also visited a friend’s barn and watched her ride. Her farm was so welcoming, allowing us to watch a lesson, visit with the horses and ask questions. I love that they are able to share something they love with a friend. It makes the bond of friendship stronger and gives them the opportunity to talk with someone who “gets it”. These girls. I imagine great things are in store for them. I love love love watching them discover themselves and their abilities through horseback riding.